Each morning while journaling, I always take the time out at the very end to figure out what is bothering me and why. It’s my core belief that thing happens FOR us instead of to us. So each day, I pick one thing I have a problem with and figure out WHY this experience is happening for me and what I can learn from it.
This morning, my problem was comparing myself and my ability to others. And I realized something important. I realized that while we are so busy comparing ourself to others, we’re not only forgetting our vision of what we are trying to strive for- but we don’t show up in the same way either, and neither does our content or whatever we are putting forth.
Our actions change, even if they are small because sometimes we portray them in a way that we think would be better because other people have successfully done it and we want to be just like them (i.e., successful). We force actions that we don’t believe in nor that we resonate with because we think it’s the ONLY way.
But it’s not true nor do we want to be just like anyone else. We want to be just like us. We want to show up how we envision ourself to show up to succeed. I think having heroes/goals/informative feedback etc., are important to help us keep our head in the game, but I don’t believe we have to function in the way as someone else to succeed. After all, we are all different, and that’s what we have going for every single one of us.
Our differences are there to empower us, not to separate us.
So next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else, ensure that a) you’re comparing yourself from a place of abundance/love and not a place of fear/not good enough, and b) don’t forget that each journey is DIFFERENT. Nobody is meant to do anything the same way; adversity and obstacles are paved for us individually to work through for ourselves.
You can’t compare the sun and the moon. So don’t compare yourself to anyone else. At the end of your life- it doesn’t matter what anyone else did or didn’t do, the only thing that matters is that you showed up for you.