I really want to talk about this, mainly because it’s true AF.
Personally, I don’t believe that people are afraid to heal – who wouldn’t want their wound healed? I think that many people just don’t know HOW to heal.
When you have an open cut, you put a bandaid on it and trust that over time it’ll heal – and it does. But it’s not so easy to do that mentally, emotionally, or Spiritually if you don’t have the tools and resources.
It’s difficult to sit through our shit and to heal because it involves going back to whatever happened to you and separating your identity from those experiences.
But we have to be able to sit, grow, and heal through our stuff or we may naturally adopt those experiences into ‘who we are’ instead of separating our identity from these conditions. When those conditions play into “who you are” it’s very hard to see yourself outside of that if you’re stuck on the inside and succumbing to whatever affects it had on you and letting it make your decisions for you.
The whole point of healing oneself is so you can RISE ABOVE your experiences. So that you can go into life knowing it’s all about turning those experiences and instead of treating them like wounds (when you were in survival mode) – you can now be strengthed BECAUSE of them and what you learned from them.
Life has a way of showing us different lessons through different experiences, some good, some bad, and some in between. And the meaning we give our experiences can either hold us back or propel us forward.
It’s hard – nearly impossible to see yourself outside of your experiences and separating yourself from them. After all – it did happen to you. No, it happened FOR you. You are NOT your wounds, your trauma, nor the effects you suffered from.
You are you and the experiences are just conditions that we latch on to based on the effect it had on us and the meaning we give it. What was once our survival becomes indebted to who we are – a lot of times even playing into our worthiness.
And if we don’t heal from what we need healing from, we will always be held back instead of evolving forward.
Let those experiences help ELEVATE you. How have they made you stronger? What have you gained from those experiences that no longer serve you? How can you rise above them with what they have taught you that will benefit you and the greater good of humanity?