“The mother wound affects us in different ways. It’s all individual according to our personal experiences and relationships with the mothers (or not) in our lives. The survival skills that we pick up for ourselves end up blocking us for the things that are meant for us, yet we can’t see it (let alone understand it) in order to do something about it. If we don’t heal this wound however, we will continue to hold ourselves back.” -Olya Barnett

What is a mother wound?

To me a mother wound means being raised with an unemotionally available mother.

While I had many people taking care of me in the orphanage, there was no “mother-daughter” bond, so I learned to live without it.

When my adoptive mother only reinforced the distance, I put up boundaries to protect myself for when and if people decide to leave.

Blocking this “bond” and “nurturing” that I yearned for, it caused me to react in different ways. And it took me nearly 30 years to realize it bothered me mentally and therefore; manifested as such on the outside.

The mother wound affects us in different ways, all individual according to our personal experiences and relationships with the mothers (or not) in our lives.

The survival skills we pick up for ourselves end up blocking us for the things that are meant for us, yet we can’t see it (let alone understand it) in order to do something about it.

So we’ll deny the wounds because we had no mother..
Or we’ll block the women or anyone in our lives from fully reaching us..
Or we’ll react out of anger and resentment in any relationship (i.e., mother-daughter, romantic, friendship, etc.,) and only cause more anxiety for ourselves (and everyone else.)

…AND so much more!

This only causes anxiety, stress, emotional and mental chaos, confusion, anger, and so much more.

But when we live from these spaces, that’s when we are in our own way.

That’s when we block ourselves for the understanding and healing that can partake.

So instead of having deathly anxiety-driven thoughts about the next time you and your mother/figure have to spend more than enough time together, ask yourself:

Is this something that I want to fix? Is this something that I think I am capable of fixing?

You’re plenty capable, especially if you’ve made it this far down.

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