If you need real help, not just this page
Everything else in The Undertow is ours — built, written, and owned by us. This page is different on purpose: we are not clinicians, and none of what follows is our advice. It's contact information for real organizations whose entire job is exactly this, available right now, for free.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
24/7, confidential support for anyone affected by relationship abuse — advocates, not a script.
Call 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE) · or text START to 88788
www.thehotline.org ↗Love Is Respect
Focused on relationship abuse specifically — what it looks like, and what your real options are.
www.loveisrespect.org ↗Crisis Text Line
Text-based, free, 24/7 — for when a phone call isn't possible or isn't safe.
Text HOME to 741741
www.crisistextline.org ↗Find A Helpline
Outside the US? This finds the real, local equivalent for your country.
findahelpline.com ↗988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
If any part of this is also about your own safety, not just his — this is the US line, already the one this site names in its Disclaimer.
Call or text 988
988lifeline.org ↗Nothing you do on this page is tracked, and nothing here asks you to type anything about your situation — not into a form, not into a saved note. If you need to leave this page immediately, the quick exit in the corner takes you to an unrelated site and does not leave a way to click back to this one.